‘It’s not a big deal.’
‘You are obsessing over nothing at all.’
‘This happens to a lot of people, you aren’t the only one.’
‘Stop being so dramatic.’
These are just the few things one happens to hear when sometimes they end up sharing their struggles and sorrows.
I admit and attest to that that opening up to someone and sharing a piece of your troubles is never ever easy.
But when one manages to do so and that person end up hearing such things it’s truly heart breaking.
I call his heart breaking process lack of empathy.
That lack of empathy and consideration makes people end up saying this.
Whatever a person goes through might seem insignificant to you.
It may not be a big deal to you but for that said person who is going through it all it might be a huge deal.
Just recently I had a coincidence of hearing these two friends talking and when friend number one confessed of having a depression the second friend ended up that there is no such thing as depression stop making a big deal out of nothing and let’s go grab a smoke.
And this just hit me so bad.
We all have our secrets, our very own struggles, our very own problems and yes many of us don’t even share it.
We don’t share our problem just because of this.
Just because of this fear of being hurt by this action of lack of empathy and lack of understanding.
If somebody comes to you and shares their sorrows with you then just listen, just listen to that person.
Give a shoulder to cry on and be a patient listener.
Try putting yourself in their shows and try imagining all the possibilities there might.
Try doing this and you’ll see this world becoming a better place day by day.
Try being empathetic for once in your life and not only see the changes around you but within you as well.